How I continue to live, despite the difficulties after Lymphoma is clear© 


Life is a gift given to you despite the difficulties,
complexities, fears, worries and, sometimes, the confusion that causes you not
to know what direction is presented to you in life. Perhaps it is true that
everyone wants to be illuminated, but not many of us would stand in the light
of awareness to see and silently bear witness to which life is revealed. 



Blaming a life that is not fair on you is like getting irritated
at something that you did not take an effort to create (you did not try) …
because you were afraid to face reality or you have had a false believe crafted
in your mind that accepts that it can be done. You refuse to reverse your untrue
belief and continue to live in your past and allow the mind to harness your
current reality.


In reality, one of the examples that we can relate to is cancer.
Throughout human history cancer is a horrific and deadly disease that is almost
incurable; therefore, we have an unfounded acceptance that cancer can be
conquered and people cured. The truth is cancer still is, to some extent,
incurable or it is difficult to cure unless discovered at a primary stage.
There is no doubt that people who have cancer want to be cured. We believe that
once the cancer is cured we can live a new life, that we will be given a chance
to live again, to learn new things, to expand our lives to make a difference.
Unfortunately, some people never want to extend that healing opportunity and
refuse treatment because of the pain or other negative reactions from the
treatment. The treatment is associated with feeling bodily fatigue, there is a
fear of losing all one’s hair, and, amid other problems that may be encountered,
are the negative attitudes that the mind conceives. These are manifested to you
and you imagine an unclear signal that you are going to die, even if you attempt
the therapy. You go into overload mode and become confused. As a result, you
get weak at the knees and lose the momentum and the power to take decisions and
actions that could give you a chance to live. When you give your mind mixed
messages, you are going to get mixed results. It could possible that you will
get more chances for survival than the painful treatment for cancer, but, if one
of the negative associations is very intense, then that false neuro-association
can wipe out your ability to transform the healing to being free of
cancer. 



Perhaps you are feeling a pain-pain barrier in your life right
now as you read this article. However, this article will encourage you to put
off your negative attitude and harness more positive perspectives about your
current situation. Stop thinking that you are going to have pain no matter what
you do. Often when we think of the pain barrier situation, we contemplate the
limitations and immobilize ourselves and do not know what to do. Usually, we
choose what we believe will be the least painful alternative. Some people,
however, allow this pain to overwhelm them completely and they experience
learned helplessness.


You can create an alternative to cope with your situation, to
interrupt these disempowering patterns. You need to create alternative pathways
so that you just wish them away, such as, when the mind and undesired behavior
or an idea exist together. When there is no mind, there are no negative notions,
but you are usually rewriting your story to feel and behave in a way consistent
with your new and empowering choices. Without linking pain to your choices about
getting healed to your nervous system, the transformation of healing will last.
When you accept the challenge of total healing, then that is something that you
want to shift in your life and you take steadfast action. If you have cancer and
follow through the whole process of treatment, you produce changes and have
strength as the result of positive attitudes and actions and a way of thinking
which aims to lean towards a life free of cancer: a new life.



We all experience emotions such as anger, irritation, anxiety,
frustration, or feeling overwhelmed. We want to develop a strategy to end these
feelings and wish to bring in more laugher and contentment. Some people go
shopping, some use other ways to cope with the side-effects of the treatment.
Some people are aware of the aftermath so they consciously or subconsciously use
an alternative pathway to relieve their pain and take them to some level of
awareness that discards the pain, so, instead they perceive joy in each moment.



Whatever the strategy, if you are going to change it, you have to
go through certain steps, the outcome of which is to find a direct or indirect
way to eliminate the pain during the course of the treatment and after the
treatment, with no discernible detour. 
   


The first step towards change after being free of cancer is to
create a change: decide what you do want so that you have something you can look
forward to. Eliminate all negative notions or attitudes or beliefs such as,“If I
change, I will have to face new challenges or I will fear the unknown that
change might bring.” Remember: life will never be the same after cancer, but
change gives you chances to survive with new experiences. Bring joy and
  contentment to the experience of change in your consciousness, in the Now.     



Change is not a question of capability: it’s almost always a
question of motivation. If you are a cancer survivor, I bet you will find a way
to get out of your depressed state and start feeling happy now. I believe you
will find alternatives to rid you of negative emotional states for the moment
under these unwanted and undesired circumstances. 
However, change is a “must” not a“possibility” or an expression of a
desire for an event to occur someday. You create a sense of urgency that you are
compelled to follow through. If we want to create change, it is not a matter of
whether we can do it but that we will do it. Whether we will do it or not comes
down to our motivations, which in turn comes down to those twin powers that
shape our lives, pain or optimal pleasure.    


Composed by Herman Wong